for Adults, Couples, Families and Teens

John Ostby
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Therapy for Adults,
Couples, Families and Teens

John Ostby
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

I have been working as a therapist for over ten years. My favorite part of this job is forming collaborative relationships with my clients and working together to improve their lives. I am particularly interested in how significant losses or traumas in our past affect our functioning in the present. Loss and trauma are universal for human beings, and they usually happen in the context of relationships. We need supportive relationships in order to heal.

Many of my individual clients are men. Emotional isolation is a significant mental health issue for men because of how boys have been socialized in our society. Sometimes codes of masculinity get in the way of optimal mental and relational health.

My graduate training was in Marriage and Family Therapy, and I still apply a relationship systems perspective to my work. Since 2018, most of my ongoing training and study has been on how complex trauma affects individual and relationship functioning. 

I have seen a wide range of client populations in my therapy career. The work I do the most in my private practice includes:

  • Men’s issues (individual therapy and men’s groups)
  • Couples therapy
  • Treatment of complex trauma
  • Teens (academics, relationship functioning, self-esteem)
  • Recovery from loss/life transitions
  • Divorce recovery
  • Co-parenting or parallel parenting
  • Traditional, non-traditional and blended families
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Shame (one of the most common symptoms of relational trauma)
  • Emotional regulation 

“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” 
Jack Kornfield



phone: 651-491-7054

Office Location:
901 Twelve Oaks Center Drive #926C
Wayzata, MN 55391
(5 minutes west of Ridgedale Center)

How will we meet?

I am available for in-person or telehealth sessions using Google Meet. Some of my clients prefer meeting in person and others prefer the convenience of telehealth. I like offering both.